Virtus Daily Blog #18 - Self Fulfilling Prophecies
Do you ever make a prediction and funnily enough it comes true? We all have, and sorry for bursting the bubble, but you’re not a clairvoyant. You’re not even special. (Well you are in your own little unique little snowflake kind of way, but not in the real world, and you’re certainly not rare)
Here’s the thing. The way we talk to ourselves. The way we express our innermost beliefs. Determines (almost*) everything that happens in our life. It most certainly determines how we feel about it, and how we react to it.
* I believe that as we learn to understand consciousness on deeper and deeper levels, we will realise how much untapped potential and control that we have. This is a conversation for another day.
This means that the stories we tell ourselves, will ultimately determine what happens and how we feel about it. How we speak to ourselves is more important than almost anything else when it comes to fulfilment, clarity and actually getting where we tell ourselves how we want to be.
If you tell yourself you’re going to have a shit day, then don’t be surprised when you have a shit day. If you tell yourself that you’re always stressed and tired, funnily enough, you’ll always be tired and stressed. This seems like common sense, but seemingly it isn’t common enough.
In the book Mindset by Carol Dweck, a common example that is discussed is the unintentional bias of teachers towards gifted students. Teachers who are aware of a child’s previous high achievements are more likely to devote time to their development. Helping them improve and add to their capacities. Resulting in these children being at the top of the class. On the flip side. If little Jimmy doesn’t learn as fast as the other kids, potentially this plays up because he feels ignored and excluded, the same teacher may impose a belief that ‘Jimmy is a little shit‘ causing a negative feedback loop to play out.
Teacher believes Jimmy isn’t intelligent, Teacher spends less time with Jimmy and more time with the smarter kids (who are a pleasure to teach), Jimmy continues to act up, annoy the teacher and fall further behind. This repeats itself until Jimmy finds himself breaking rules, getting in trouble, and struggles to find his place in the world because he was never given the opportunities that were presented to others. *Fingers crossed Jimmy can connect with a teacher or a mentor and find his growth and evolution somewhere else.
There can be externally imposed self-fulfilling prophecies, or self imposed. Awareness will help you realise and overcome A from B.
Almost everything is a teachable skill. If we can teach ourselves to utilise self fulfilling prophecies for good and positive outcomes, instead of negative, evil outcomes then our world will be a much, much better place.
I’m the last person to go super woo woo on some of these things, but the more I read and experience the more I realise our untapped potential is endless.
Enjoy. Be kind to yourself.
Change your beliefs.
Books to dive into if you’re interested… take them with a grain of salt, like you should everything. Especially my writing.
Biology of Belief - Bruce Lipton
You are the Placebo - Joe Dispenza
The Code of the Extraordinary Mind - Vishen Lakhiani
The Celestine Prophecy - James Redfield
Mindset - Carol Dweck.
See the below terribly drawn image for clarification.